the destiny neurosis - by Ava - bookbear express
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fate and family
Elmer Bischoff, River Dam, 1970 I’m always interested in other people’s parents. After all, our parents are the first lesson we learn. I believe strongly in the destiny neurosis, that we’re destined to recreate our childhood traumas again and again until we become fully conscious of them. I know many people who’ve reenacted their parents’ marriage with a level of accuracy that disturbs me—I read once that in any particular dimension we’re doomed to either 1) become just like our parents or 2) rebel and become the opposite. In my experience this tends to be true. I told B that he reminded…
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