flâneur

you could be brilliant...but you're coward. - by sms

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“Children shut down their natural desires and instincts to survive the disapproval of their caregivers.”- Psychologist Dr. Dan Siegel When you were a child, you were fearless. You’d throw yourself into anything that caught your attention; acting, piano, violin, basketball, ice skating and so much more without a second thought. You loved the rush of trying, of discovering what you could do, of feeling alive in your own skin. It didn’t matter if you were good at it or not. You didn’t need to be. Failure wasn’t something to fear back then, it was just a part of learning, a part of growing. You were young and free, balanced and healthy in your own joy. Somewhere along the way, everything changed. You learned that joy wasn’t enough. Trying wasn’t enough. Your mother made sure of that. She wanted brilliance, perfection, a child who could perform and succeed and never falter. And when you didn’t meet her standards, she made it clear you were never enough. Every mistake, every stumble, every f

“Children shut down their natural desires and instincts to survive the disapproval of their caregivers.”- Psychologist Dr. Dan Siegel When you were a child, you were fearless. You’d throw yourself into anything that caught your attention; acting, piano, violin, basketball, ice skating and so much more without a second thought. You loved the rush of trying, of discovering what you could do, of feeling alive in your own skin. It didn’t matter if you were good at it or not. You didn’t need to be. Failure wasn’t something to fear back then, it was just a part of learning, a part of growing.…

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