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How to handle stressful social encounters?

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After the insulting incident, I realized I needed to practice more on handling high stress social situations. A methodology that I’m practicing here is from unfolding practice from Henrik Karlsson. I was frustrated because this insulting incidence is against my vision, a vision of respect and equality. Yet, with the unfolding method, I want to refine the reality. What are the steps to unfold? Observe the context: For example, when applying to university or trying to figure out my career, this means observing what kind of tasks I enjoy repeatedly, what kind of people I want to surround myself with, how the job market looks, and what I am interested in. Form a mental model of the context: Make an educated guess about what kind of work I should do. Take a small step in the context based on this guess: For instance, “Maybe I should email someone who does the kind of work I’m considering and ask them what it is like?” “Maybe I should do a small project in my spare time?” “Maybe trial and er

After the insulting incident, I realized I needed to practice more on handling high stress social situations. A methodology that I’m practicing here is from unfolding practice from Henrik Karlsson. I was frustrated because this insulting incidence is against my vision, a vision of respect and equality. Yet, with the unfolding method, I want to refine the reality. What are the steps to unfold? Observe the context: For example, when applying to university or trying to figure out my career, this means observing what kind of tasks I enjoy repeatedly, what kind of people I want to surround…

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