Be Mine? Why It’s Smart to Court Your Friends
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Like romantic relationships, many friendships begin with one person pursuing the other — and it’s not desperate or weird. It’s smart.
Photo: Michael A. Keller/? Corbis. All Rights Reserved. I could tell she was courting me. The constant compliments about my accessories. The invitations to lectures at the library. The birthday card on my desk with an offer to buy me a celebratory bourbon. In hindsight, it seems so obvious that we were destined to be more than co-workers. If I had made a list of qualities I desire in a friend (willingness to participate in impromptu dance parties, commitment to late-night snacking, tendency to get into spirited arguments while drunk, equal interest in classic literature and celebrity gossip),
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