Matthew Jordan’s review of On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy

5/5: Without a doubt the most important book I've ever read about psychotherapy, feelings, finding yourself, growth. The whole book is basically a meditation of what it means to "be yourself". It sounds like simple advice, but it's wickedly complicated. We do not have one fixed "self" we can simply "be". And even if we did, we are always changing, so "be yourself" is actually about hitting a moving target. And can we not change ourselves? If I surround myself with different people, and start reading different books, will I not find myself becoming a different self, or at least, find certain part...

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