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On making friends - by christineist - christine's corner

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Similar to building a self-reinforcing life, it works well to introduce your friends to each other. When your friends become friends with your friends, each friend independently makes an effort to stay in touch with the others, thus strengthening the overall network and lessening the burden on yourself. For example let’s say you have friends A B C D and E. If you have to keep in touch and reach out to all 5 individually, you will be exhausted. However if everyone is friends with each other, then next time you hang out with A you might hear about the latest with D. You don't have to worry about losing touch with D even if you haven't spoken in months because you are somehow keeping in light touch through hearsay from other friends. When you do finally hang out with D you have "kept up" with their lives through other friend hang outs. (Example) So even if you've been slacking off on catching up with Claire, you might run into Dan who mentions that Claire recently started doing poetry rea

Similar to building a self-reinforcing life, it works well to introduce your friends to each other. When your friends become friends with your friends, each friend independently makes an effort to stay in touch with the others, thus strengthening the overall network and lessening the burden on yourself. For example let’s say you have friends A B C D and E. If you have to keep in touch and reach out to all 5 individually, you will be exhausted. However if everyone is friends with each other, then next time you hang out with A you might hear about the latest with D. You don't have to worry…

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