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The Paradox of Fate and Choice in Love - by Shina

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I’ve always believed in the Disney kind of love. the meant-to-bes, the grand gestures, the happy-ever-afters. Growing up, I thought real love should feel like a spark that instantly rewires your life, and it’s fate that brought us to meet. So, most of my past experiences had been either an immediate pursuit or love at first sight. There’s barely in-betweens. Thanks for reading Shizudio! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This means that within the first month, I’d already decide whether we were datable. By the second, we’d be in bed. And a few months later, we’d be saying goodbye ( usually through a video call, separated by countries and time zones ). Almost all of my relationships ended in long distance. And the reason was always the same: neither of us would move. I used to say. “He’s just not the one for me.” A Disney princess’s perfect conclusion to an imperfect ending. To some extend it is true, something about each of us just will not make things work.

I’ve always believed in the Disney kind of love. the meant-to-bes, the grand gestures, the happy-ever-afters. Growing up, I thought real love should feel like a spark that instantly rewires your life, and it’s fate that brought us to meet. So, most of my past experiences had been either an immediate pursuit or love at first sight. There’s barely in-betweens. This means that within the first month, I’d already decide whether we were datable. By the second, we’d be in bed. And a few months later, we’d be saying goodbye ( usually through a video call, separated by countries and time zones…

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