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5 tips for how to have great conversations!!! - by QC

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Uplevel your conversation game!!!

One. I had to learn how to look at people while talking to them. I grew up largely avoiding it out of a vague sense that it was too intimate a thing to do without permission. To see too much of a person’s skin, to notice the wrinkles in their baggy shirts that don’t fit, to wonder how a person who is 40 could look 30 or vice versa, to admire the curves of their limbs but hopefully not in a creepy way, to silently thank God for the occasional tantalizing hints of bra - was I allowed? Was any of that meant for me to see? When I came to America at the age of six I was ambushed by many invisible…

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