Everyone is checking out - by Alex Kaschuta

The much discussed wave of men opting out of traditional life paths is just the tip of the iceberg and an increasing number of women are below the surface.

I keep bumping into the factoid that many men have checked out, that the young man of today (“soylennial” or younger) is not engaging with traditional life paths anymore and is lost, either because he has no incentives to be found or because he is qualitatively different (compromised by endocrine poisons or carrying a heavy mutational load on average) - or both. It seems like this phenomenon has many local flavors: The Hikikomori in Japan, China’s Herbivore men, the phenomenon of Waithood in India and the Middle East, quiet quitting, and the growth of NEETs everywhere in the Western world…

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