if a person was a house - by shani - skin contact

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The foundation of a person is invisible, but you can sense how sturdy it is. Try sensing into it by asking: how resilient are they to stress and unpredictability? Your foundation is your relationship to yourself. The strength of that relationship is the strength of your foundation. The problem with a shaky foundation is everything built on top of it feels like a game of jenga: the higher you build, the more likely one wrong move leads to collapse. The strongest foundation you can have is one of acceptance and love. If you are able to sit with radical acceptance for all that you’ve done, all that you’ve been through, all that you feel and want, no matter how bent and embarrassing and ridiculous, you have a foundation other people cannot shake. I didn’t see the value of this type of self-acceptance growing up, so I tried a few other things: Self-indulgence: can be with food, sex, video games, shopping etc. Over time, a life centered around indulgence starts to feel like one long groundho

When I try to picture someone’s inner space, I picture a house. There are four things I notice: foundation, frame, lighting, and what they’re building towards. grandmother’s house. shani 2023. The Foundation The foundation of a person is invisible, but you can sense how sturdy it is. Try sensing into it by asking: how resilient are they to stress and unpredictability? Your foundation is your relationship to yourself. The strength of that relationship is the strength of your foundation. The problem with a shaky foundation is everything built on top of it feels like a game of jenga: the…

if a person was a house - by shani - skin contact

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